The early days of parenting can be wonderful and hard. Every family needs support — friends, family, neighbors, and services. All babies cry and it is normal. A plan may help you stay calm if you’ve tried everything and your baby is still crying.
- Call the Family Help Line 1-800-932-HOPE (4673) and talk to a parent coach. They can help find resources and problem solve. Knowing who you can call when you need help is a great way to reduce stress as a family. Going through the Have a Plan brochure can provide soothing tips and calming activities to use when your baby is crying helping you stay grounded, problem-solve in the moment, and know what to do if you need a break.
- Babies do cry. Healthy babies can cry a lot in their first five months of life, with the peak around 2 to 4 months of age. Crying is a way that babies communicate and release stress. You are doing the best you can.
- Remember the 10-foot rule. If you start to feel frustrated or angry, gently place the baby on their back in a safe place (like a crib or bassinet) and step at least 10 feet away. Take a few slow breaths until you feel calmer. Parents report that this simple rule has changed their lives and kept their children safe.
- One steady thought. Pick a short phrase that helps ground you when things feel overwhelming, such as “I am doing my best,” or “My baby is safe.” Repeat it while you take slow breaths or step away using the 10-foot rule.
- Sing away the stress. Sing your favorite song or lullaby. Babies love it and don't care how well you sing. Rocking and singing to your baby can calm them down - and you, too!
- Notice one thing. Notice one thing about your baby. When crying feels intense, focus on one simple detail like your baby’s breathing or their tiny fingers. This can help shift your boy out of stress and remind you that your baby is safe.
- Grab the phone. Call a friend, a family member or 1-800-932-HOPE (4673). Sometimes parenting can be overwhelming. Asking for help is the best thing to do for both you and your baby. Often, a short conversation with a person who really listens can make all the difference.
- Move and breathe. When you are having a difficult day, being active can really help. Go for a walk outside with the baby. Take deep breaths. Just getting out of the house for a few minutes can help relieve stress.
- Fill your cup. Take some time every day to do something that you enjoy. Caring for a baby is hard work. Listen to music, read, or take a hot bath - whatever helps you relax and recharge your batteries. If you don’t have help, short breaks still count. It’s okay to place your baby on their back in a safe place and step away for a few minutes (10-foot rule). Take care of yourself so you can take care of your baby.
- Check with your pediatrician. If you are worried there is something wrong that is causing your baby to cry, contact their pediatrician or get them medical attention as soon as possible.
